Unless you've been living under a rock, you've probably heard about the murder-suicide of Steve McNair and Sahel Kazemi (she being the murderer). If you haven't, click here.
Some people have come down on Steve, others have blamed her. I don't think any of that matters now. They are not here with us. Safe to say, that hindsight is 20/20, and they'd probably do things differently if they were with us.
Some people like to use this story as a way to blame crazy women, and to stress the important of picking the right mistress. Others use this as a tool to frighten men from cheating. It's something to think about, but I'm not thinking about it that way.
When I heard about this story, and thought about his wife and children, I thought about happiness and the lack thereof for all parties involved. When we cheat, there's this lack of happiness driving us, or motivating us, but instead of taking the time to work on things with our mates, we try to find solace in others. This is not the answer.
That thirst never goes away. It stays there. People like to think that the Commandment: "Thou shall not commit adultery" is archaic, and irrelevant in this day and age, but I don't think so. It's not about NOT having fun. It's about living your happiest life, as drama-free as possible. It's about not hurting another person, the lover or the spouse. It's about not doing damage to your mind, body and soul.
Most men won't be killed by their lovers. It quietly fizzles out, and usually the lover is the one left to pick up the pieces. Unfortunately, it's his wife and kids that will have to do it, now that they are both gone.
It's sad to see both of these human beings gone for a dalliance that never wanted such a terminal response as murder-suicide. Sad to see two young lives snuffed out over weakness.
Should I be warning men? It's certainly the easier way out. But I do believe in working through the bad times with my spouse, than working through the bad times with anyone new all over again. I'd rather go to counseling with my spouse, cry with my spouse, side-eye and get mad at my spouse, in a counseling session, than try to find happiness in some stranger that is not convinced that they would be devoted that way to me.
It's over now. Let's let them rest in piece.
No Hate Here For Steve McNair
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That's crap I feel all the hate is because Steve Mcnair is black and the woman well I don't know but she certainly ISN'T! Please if the races and victims had been reversed the hate-filled uber racist MSM would have used this to yet again go on THEIR favorite sport high-tech lynching. Not that if Mcnair had of done this it would leave him off the hook but she's a MURDERER and instead of compassion of course the media can be counted on to point fingers of blame as they waft into their own hall of shame. If Edward R. Murrow were alive now he'd go outside and PRACTICE turning ove in his grave the media doesn't give a damn about black athletes unless somebody is accused of something.
Mudshark.
this is a sad story...
honestly, i feel like this girl is to blame. you can't just go around shooting people no matter how upset you are with them.
she knew what the situation was from the begining, honestly they probably arent going to leave their spouse, so if u go into affair thinking they will, you're sadly mistaken and wasting your time.
steve should have just been honest w/ all involved [from the begining], telling his wife he had a lady friend and telling his lady friend he has a wife/family and that what they have is jsut sex. if he had that type of communication then maybe he'd still be alive today.
also this woman was crazy from the begining (even her friends have said that), but steve choice to ingnore the warning signs...
i'm not for cheating, BUT i am for laying it out on the line from the begining so that way you can let your partner make the decision that suits them best.
-if you can't be monogamous, dont date people who are into monogamy!
-if you're "bisexual", date other "bisexuals"...
-if you're bothered by cigarette smoke, don't date a smoker
you know, people try to decieve themselves into thinking they can change the things that they don't like about their partner and they are sadly mistaken and wasting their time...
it's 2009 and too much is at stake to carry on ones life in such a way...
tariq nasheed did a very insightful show about steve mcnair:
http://macklessonsradio.com
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